I recently indulged in the world of Tinder in a country whose first language I do not speak. One day, however, I was pleasantly surprised to be asked out on a date. Hopefully a few of them may even enlighten your own.
But it does make everything we say more relevant, and we listen to each other much more carefully than we would if we spoke the same language fluently. Silence is sometimes perceived as awkward, especially in the dating arena. But with a language barrier you learn that silence is better than forced small talk, especially because of the effort you both have to put into it even if you both do it gladly.
You start to become more self-aware of what you say and try to make all of it count. Personally I am very outgoing.
I new friends easily, have a gift of being able to make people comfortable around me, and can easily make someone smile. But for this they need to understand me, and I need to understand them. However, stepping out of a comfort zone never hurt anyone. Shout out to all of you out there who, like me, tend to analyze texts down to the very last word.
The person who just replied to your text with a smiley face definitely hates you now. But when your SO can barely figure out the original meaning of the words he is using in his texts, there is definitely no hidden message. You will learn that most of the time — and I find this to be especially true guys — they mean exactly what they typed.
Trying to break it all down will just drive you, and whoever you are texting, absolutely crazy. If you fall into this category, join the club. This guy is not only trying to think and speak in your language, he is also improving by the second. A for effort, anyone? A new Thought Catalog series exploring our connection
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Dating a guy who speaks another language able to understand and speak a foreign language is beneficial are dating someone who doesn't even understand your mother tongue.
But when you're dating cross-culturally, discussions about super-niche verbs are “You're not the same person that you are in your mother tongue. Some people even speak louder in one language than another,” she says.
If you tend to get bored in relationships or just haven't been super interested in anyone lately, dating someone who speaks another language.
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