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Personally, I know many including my own brother who Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest dated without supervision.
From what I understand a matter like this according to
Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest should fall under conscience. But if anyone knows of somewhere I can find this in writing, I think it would be helpful. Sorry if formatting is bad, on mobile. It's considered a risk. But generally speaking it has to do with being alone in a place where "passions might overwhelm you". It's not supposed to mean you can never be alone. Unfortunately JW culture in many areas Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest tone deaf to this.
I was counselled for walking with my ex-wife from the convention to a restaurant in broad daylight on a public sidewalk while we were dating. So not sure they are gonna listen. It's meant as a precaution not a rule. The YPA book paints it as a helpful "tip".
However elders are kings of their little kingdom, and we all know principles and suggestions become rules anyway. Similarly, on occasion an overseer might have to reason firmly but lovingly with ones who are wandering into dangerous situations. A kind and understanding elder could help the couple to avoid such compromising circumstances. While being careful to avoid accusing them, he might highlight possibilities that could lead to conduct that Jehovah hates.
As Jeremiah did, faithful elders condemn what God condemns. In this they imitate Jehovah, who, though not harsh, pleaded with his people through his prophet: Date in groups, or insist
Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest having a chaperone. Avoid risky settings, such as being alone in a parked car or in a house or an apartment. Kind of how it's easy to deconstruct the allowing of death for refusal of blood transfusions when Jesus told the Pharisees that a life was more important than rules.
Thanks fo the reply though! It's not in the Bible. It's thier made up precaution. The article above warns elders not to accuse you and simply warn of the dangers. Maybe go for it and wait for counsel later, then say "Thank you, I will do this going forward". It really depends on the elders and local JW culture. You gotta see how far you can push, and if they give you shit just tuck your tail between your legs and say "Yes sir".
I'd recommend driving separately to a restaurant for lunch mid week day. Less chance of being seen and if you are its a gray zone. Either way it's not a "get in trouble" offence. It's a warning type thing. I would not try to argue it or counter with scripture though. No need to get in thier radar as a trouble maker.
Especially as an outsider from the area. While reading the posts on here i learned it's all a matter of which part of the world you live in. I am from Europe and was dating a jw for more than 2 years.
Not once have we been told we needed a chaperone. Having one even in public places seems batshit crazy even for pimis. I know a Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest that was so silly that way, he proposed with his family around.
Not because he was making it one of those elaborate public proposals, but because they were never, ever alone, even for the proposal. Depends on the family, the couple, the cong, the elders in the cong And then they say Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest are not responsible for failed marriages.
I mean the situation you're describing is a recipee for a disaster. Marrying a person you basically don't know. It would probably help us if we knew where you and she are and how you guys met it was on JW and her elders are anal about not being on that site like Most are then you may have trouble.
Lol the whole thing is so complicated. Here's the backstory I suppose, it's a bit long. I'm from California and she's from Colorado. When she visited I got her number and we've been talking from there.
But about two weeks into talking, I did something uncommon and really unrecommended. I told her how I really felt about the organization. Since we were very open from the beginning and I was always stressing honesty, I felt she needed to know since I didn't want this to become a potential issue later on.
I Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest she wouldn't text me back or want to continue talking to me from that point on, but suprisingly she wanted to continue. Three months in an she actually proposes that I go visit.
Right now, we're trying to sort out all the details as to when to coincide our vacations. That's when she blindsided me with the whole chaperoning issue. She said it was the first thing her mom brought up when she told her I had plans in going. The girl I'm talking to
Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest that she has no problem going out doing things on our own, but that her mom and the congregation would give her a hard time if she did, and when referring to her mom said "I don't know her", so I can only assume the worst.
I want to accommodate these stupid rules because she's accommodated me already, but I argued Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest are we supposed to be ourselves if there's always someone over our shoulders?
She says she understands and that she honestly doesn't Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest what to do. She has no close friends who can cover for us, which is something I can relate to having been brought up as a witness. Currently we've been talking for about half a year, but the whole situation seems pretty dire to be quite honest.
Has she started questioned or has she decided one way or another; to Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest safe uncontested unchallenged Has she seen the wizard behind the curtain?
Does anyone have any advice on how to hide a romantic relationship with someone outside of the org? I am a PIMO dating a guy from my school right now. I may not be the best at answering this question, as I Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest got to date while in school unfortunately.
But I suppose it just depends on whether there's anybody there that can rat you out. I honestly don't think it would be very easy. Sooner or later when going out, someone might see you and at that point it depends on how they want to proceed. Very few go up to you and talk about it, most
Jehovah witness dating chaperone quest straight for the elders.
Maybe you should try making a post to get more people to help answer your question. Had a guy friend when I was younger completely platonic as he is now currently married to a man. He came to my house where my mom saw us leaving having no issue with it. As we were about to pull into the driveway another witness was driving by. We slowed down to say hi and that we were heading in to the bookstudy. Lol seriously it's like whenever Watchtower gives a specific situation that they want you to feel a certain way about, even though they'll end up saying that it's your choice, many witnesses will take it as fact of something you shouldn't be doing.
It's clever phrasing on their part, but they obviously want you to side with whatever it is is they're insinuating. There's nothing really written on the subject anymore. It used to be a big thing, and the old YPA book had a whole chapter basically about just that.
But I think some people took it to an extreme, and maybe that's why they stopped writing about it. mission, date entering MTC. Mothering and chaperone. Witness. An LDS member's perspective. Called to Serve. By Laura Mecham. A Christian College's Dating Rules January 3, Hemant Mehta Apparently, if you don't ban interracial dating like Bob Jones University used to do, then .
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